Paul DeBlassie III, Ph.D. - Psychologist / Author / Speaker
Paul DeBlassie III, Ph.D.
  • Home
  • About
  • Books
  • Essays, Stories, and Bits of Magic
  • Contact
  • Menu Menu

Archive for category: horror

The Right Now of Heaven and Hell

October 6, 2024/in horror, reading, visionary horror/by Paul DeBlassie III

 

We Live What We Create

The horror of everyday life lies in its simplicity. It’s loaded with choices. Horrifying! In the words of the Brooklyn poet Walt Whitman, in Song of Myself, “. . .. Nor any more heaven or hell than there is right now.” To retreat from or advance into states of mind and being in the world is a choice. It lies before each moment of every day. Heaven and hell.

 

The challenge to move past the hellish fear that can lock you up takes strong, translated, sensitive psychic muscles. Sometimes, you feel weak, the sense of yielding, collapsing into lethargy. There’s tiredness and a lack of desire to plug into life. We feel like hell, we say. And there’s no denying the reality of that state of mind and being in the world. We’ve created it, and we live it.

 

Gaze Heavenward

Girding yourself and mustering the sensitivity and strength to do what you need to do, to live up to your positive potential in each situation or relationship, is what Taoist philosophy calls gazing heavenward. And it is key to a generative state of mind and being in the world. But, as with all things in life, getting there can be hell. And that’s okay if we’re getting there and don’t stay in a rut-and-stuck mentality. That’s hell!

 

The old medicine woman in The Unholy states, “The young one must accept her calling on her own. Only then can she battle the forces of evil. Should she retreat into fear, she will die.” What strong words! And the words are true. There’s nothing quite like living in fear and letting it dominate your mind, thoughts, and actions. It holds you down so badly that you’ve unwittingly colluded with evil. It’s a dark force that erodes goodness and well-being and seeing the simplicity of choices.

 

In depth psychotherapy, I help individuals find their way out of a life of fear and move into accepting what life brings their way and dealing with it. “Deal with it,” we say. And dealing with it as forthrightly as possible makes you a more sensitive and stronger human. You have to side-step anxiety and fear and embrace your potential to advance into life—to deal with your fear, learn from the past, and move on with your life! Heavenward gazing beats the heck out of its hellish alternative.

 

Live a More Soulful Life

Readers have told me that reading The Unholy felt dark and scary, but then something happened, and decisions came into play. Decisions come into play in the story that is your life. Decisions form your life story and shape your soul. Choices that take you away from your sense of self and life are unholy. They leave you out of sorts, irritable, and sometimes downright mean. But sensitive and true choices usher you out of the hands of the demon god of irritability, pain, and death and into a more sensitive and soulful life.

 

A while back, I finished a Stephen King short story that dramatized the demon god of pain. I like that designation of the dark deity that feeds on pain. It’s an image that captures the pernicious energy attaching itself to an injured person vulnerable to self-pity. The more they feel sorry for themselves, the more the demon god can feed. And the more the demon god gorges, the worse the pain. It’s hell! The pain becomes chronic, and the person becomes more self-pitying, fueling a vicious cycle.

 

I’ve seen this phenomenon at work with people addicted to misery. They crave it. Given the choice—and there is always a choice—they choose what’s harmful. And then things spiral downward. Misery begets misery. Pain, juiced by self-pitying, worsens pain. With King and the demon god pain and in The Unholy, the pain is physical and psychic. An exorcism is required, and its form is dramatic and unique to each story.

 

Reading metaphysical horror helps you exorcise the fear, underlying anxiety, and pain that is unique to you and your life. It ushers in a more soulful life, unique for each person and intimately tied to choices. Deciding to read daily is a simple choice to live deeply and exorcise angst through stories. It’s a choice to look heavenward once you’ve gazed into the abyss and seen it’s not for you! We read, get into the flow of the dramatic tension of metaphysical thrillers, go through twists and turns, and release anxiety, fear, and the hell that has lived within and has been manifest without. Then, movement is made toward the living of a more soulful life.

 

Read daily and deeply

So, reading daily helps you move toward living a more soulful life by dealing with life’s fears, horrors, and demons! It helps you dig out of hellish attitudes and ways of being. It adds oomph to your attitude, clears your head, and boosts energy. Reading as exorcism! What a thought!

 

Reading horror helps you deal with things and unlock locked-up places of mind. It opens your mind to the heaven and hell of right now and moves your gaze heavenward. You get through a story and exorcise closeted fears and open the psychic atmosphere to new spirits and life-giving states of mind.

 

In essence, your life is a work of creative fiction. It’s you living your life story according to your choices. Whatever your decision, remember that heaven and hell are right now, and it’s you doing your life as you choose, including nourishing your ability to dig out of hellish states of mind and gaze heavenward by reading daily and deeply.

https://www.pauldeblassieiii.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/Metaphysical-Thrillers.png 1080 1080 Paul DeBlassie III /wp-content/uploads/2018/03/weblogo-3.png Paul DeBlassie III2024-10-06 15:02:422024-10-06 15:02:42The Right Now of Heaven and Hell

Toxic Ties Feed the Horror

February 19, 2024/in horror, stories, trauma/by Paul DeBlassie III

As a psychotherapist and writer, I treat and write about unhealthy emotional ties as horror-making. Sick ties exert toxic effects that can be felt as anxiety and depression. They can eventually make their way into the body. The body cries out when the mind is in pain, writes one psychologist. And it’s true. In Goddess of Everything, Consuela, Gabriél’s wife, tries to help him see the source of his suffering. But getting through to one enmeshed in a toxic relationship is challenging, to say the least.

The good thing for Gabriél is that he has a wife who loves him. She’s willing to give him time and space to figure things out. The bottom line for him is that he has to see what he needs to see, or the horror will continue to be fed. He keeps it alive by keeping the tie alive and feeding it—literally, as you’ll see in the story.

Writing horror for me as a trauma specialist is natural since trauma is horror, and horror always springs from trauma. It’s a Jack-In-Box that pops up in your life and can be terrifying and terrorizing. Horror is the dark gift that keeps on terrorizing us unless we see what we need to see. And reading horror allows us the chance to hone our horror-spotting skills. It helps us to read on and spot the horror at work behind the scenes of the story. Then, we may be able to hone our horror-spotting skills in daily life.

Spotting horror is vital for us to be healthy psychically, denying horror, keeping it alive, and making our mind uneasy and even ill. This passage in Goddess of Everything speaks to this dynamic: “Uneasiness stole over Consuela. It was in the way she shifted in the green webbed lawn chair, got a faraway look, grit her teeth, jaw muscles taut. Then she turned to him, brow furrowed. ‘Things go from top down, Gabriél. . .. Maybe you’re too close. Facts get blurry when you’re emotionally tied’ “(p.169).

Gabriél denied what stared him in the face and so kept the horror alive. Blurred then denied emotional reality leads to emotional and physical suffering and trauma. Only moving from emotional doubting and denial offers hope from the affliction of horror in Goddess of Everything and in the realm of everyday life.

As you’ll see as you read Goddess of Everything, toxic ties are real, and so is the horror that comes with them. So, it comes down to a decision to keep the denial going and, therefore, to keep the horror alive, or risk what needs to be risked and see what happens!

Live Deeply . . . Read Daily!

https://www.pauldeblassieiii.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/Toxic-Ties-Feed-the-Horror.png 1080 1080 Paul DeBlassie III /wp-content/uploads/2018/03/weblogo-3.png Paul DeBlassie III2024-02-19 13:05:232024-02-19 13:05:23Toxic Ties Feed the Horror

Blog Categories

  • archetypal
  • dreams
  • empathy
  • feminine
  • healer
  • horror
  • intuition
  • magic
  • metaphysical
  • metaphysical horror
  • mystic
  • News
  • nightmares
  • Psychology
  • rage
  • reading
  • religion
  • soul
  • spirits
  • stories
  • thrillers
  • trauma
  • unconscious mind
  • Visionary
  • visionary horror
  • Writing

Trending Topics

Advice art Awards & Praise Book books consciousness covid-19 depth psychology dreaming dreams Energy Fiction Health & Wellness holidays horror images and symbols imagination love Metaphysical metaphysical fiction metaphysical horror mind mother nightmares novels psychological psychology psychotherapy read reading Religion sacred soul spirits stories Story Symptoms therapy Thriller unconscious mind Visionary visionary fiction visionary horror visionary stories writing

Subscribe

Stay up to date on new releases and get notified of new blog posts!

Awards & Accolades

NYC Book Award International Book Award Pinnacle Book Achievement Award

Paul DeBlassie III, Ph.D.

Paul DeBlassie III, Ph.D., is a psychologist and award-winning writer living in his native New Mexico, crafting visionary thrillers energized with trickster mischief and natural magic.

Read more →

Recent Posts

  • Psychic Gold: The Magic Hidden in Our DreamsJune 3, 2025 - 12:33 pm
  • The Heart of DreamingJanuary 27, 2025 - 12:29 pm
  • The Right Now of Heaven and HellOctober 6, 2024 - 3:02 pm

Useful Links

  • Homepage
  • About the Author & Publisher
  • Book Details and Buying Options
  • Paul’s Blog
  • Get in Touch
  • Amazon Store
  • Privacy Policy

© Paul DeBlassie III, Ph.D. / Hallowed Realms Press. All Rights Reserved.

Scroll to top