Knocked Out Of Your Orbit

To get out of a rut, we may have to go to the unfamiliar. Getting knocked out of our day-to-day orbit can be life changing, a true visionary experience. Visionary times help us gain a new perspective, to shapeshift emotionally and spiritually, and change things up. It’s scary to change things up; but, if we’re willing to start fresh, good stuff can happen.

Josh Gressel Ph.D., in Psychology Today (9.2.18) states, “Of course there is a balance to walk here and each of us has to figure out how much discomfort and strangeness they can handle. I do not intend to go trekking in the Himalayas without a guide or go anywhere without a basic plan. But whether it’s starting to learn a new instrument, starting a new job, or taking a new class, it’s healthy for all of us to be forced into “beginner’s mind.”

It’s frightening when we think we’ve got it made. People seeking depth psychotherapy often complain that just before things got bad, they thought everything was all right. They thought they had it made. Then things went upside down wrong. Life knocked them out of their orbit.

Once we look at things in therapy, we see they were in a rut. They’d been there longer than they thought. Sometimes, we don’t know where we are until after the fact. Certain things, like reading and good stories, help us keep our head in the game of life. They stir emotions and keep us real.

And, one thing is for sure, to get out of the rut we’re in (and sometimes don’t realize we’re in one) we need to be open to feeling. When I wrote Goddess of the Wild Thing, I kept it close to everything I’ve experienced personally and with patients I’ve worked with in psychotherapy. When we close down emotionally, we close down the vital force that is life. It’s a thrill to feel, to stay real, and to pop out of emotional and spiritual ruts.

And in visionary fiction, dramatic thrillers about spirituality and love, it’s all about keeping it real and discovering things fresh. There’s typically a crisis in getting to where we need to be. Old patterns keep us stuck in old misery. Openness to insight (things suddenly clicking in our head and heart) and courage (leaning into what we feel is best for us) makes the story that is our life unfold in a natural and consciousness-raising way.

Check out Goddess of the Wild Thing – it’ll help you keep it real, pop out of your rut, and discover things fresh. Happy reading.

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You Can’t Change Anyone But Yourself

Thinking we can change someone is never a good idea. Even as a psychotherapist, it’s not my approach. I help people to further their understanding of self and other, then we wait and yield to the effects of therapeutic human understanding. We never know how it’s going to turn out; we only know that truth facing is medicine for the soul.

So, it’s the same when I write books. Stories can be medicine for the soul. Esoteric fiction moves us into powerful psychic realities, dynamics that shift the way we see ourselves and others. Stories are their own form of truth facing – medicine for the soul.

I remember that while writing The Unholy, my depth psychotherapy practice was overrun by patients seeking healing from religious trauma. They had suffered physical, emotional and often sexual trauma within a religious context. It was within church-going homes, respected religious institutions, and mediations ashrams that trauma abounded. As they healed, they desperately wanted to make the perpetrators change; but so often the families and organizations refused to see the problem. Thus, there was no hope for changing those in denial; but my patients, through their own journey into self-understanding, healed and changed.

My writing shifted during this time away from inspirational psychology and into visionary fiction. Here I told stories of emotional and spiritual upheaval. Trauma laced its way through action-packed dramas of religion gone bad and one person’s determined struggle to battle dark forces within and without. Within the narrative, as in our daily life, things vacillated between hope and despair. The imagination takes us into realms of visions, dreams, and everyday magic in a way that inspirational psychology approaches but, for me, did not bring home.

Stories take us headlong into what we’re grappling with in our own lives. Unconsciously, we’re always drawn to read the story that will speak most to us at a given time. The writing of Goddess of the Wild Thing bolted out of me as patients moved into issues of what it means to find love. It doesn’t go the same way for everybody. You can’t pin it down. Love is a wild goddess. The image of the wild goddess came to me in a dream one night. It was to be the title for this particular book that depicts an age-old struggle about love—whether bad love is better than no love— and the discovery that love is a wild thing.

So when it comes to changing someone, don’t do it. It’s the message of lives nearly lost and then regained. We can lose ourselves by giving more and more to someone who does not see or want to see that there is a problem. Whether in religion, love, or day-to-day work and relationships it’s the getting on with things as they are that matters. Of course, that doesn’t imply sticking with what’s bad or dysfunctional. There are mean and malignant people. They are the ones who, in small ways or big strikes, undermine our sense of worth and integrity. Actually, they seem to get a kick out of it. Oh, they might say they’re sorry, but they’ll come around and do it again. There’s a payoff for them in the form of power and control. We need to shake loose of them and move on.

In story writing, it’s utterly fascinating to experience the characters speaking to me, the writer, of their plight. Maybe (they wonder) they made up the bad thing that happened. Maybe they blew it out of proportion. Maybe, maybe, maybe. So many maybes signal upside down thinking and one unhappy soul setting themselves up for another you-know-what.

So, when we read we can go through things on the page that helps us with everyday things. That way we’re less likely to set ourselves up for another you-know-what situation. We can avoid unnecessary life pain and trauma through an understanding of self and others. Reading opens up soul paths for change because, after all, you can’t change anyone but yourself.

#visionaryfiction #depthpsychology #soulmedicine #change

Heal Your Spiritual Energy

“Your spiritual energy needs to be cared for, nourished and protected just as much as your physical body, but very often it is neglected or ignored. Very often we fail to tune into our spiritual selves and really honor this energetic side of us.”

The young healer in The Unholy uses her hands to facilitate healing. This article posted by Forever Conscious explores how hands can be used to energize and heal. Such a simple and practical process, the use of our hands to invigorate the psyche is always available to help us delve more authentically into our energetic nature. The article continues, “This energetic side of us rules over our intuition and is our internal compass. It helps us to feel connected to something greater than just ourselves and it helps to guide us through all of life’s decisions.

If you are feeling drained despite sleeping well, if you are struggling to find the joy even though everything in your life is going well, it could be because you need to restore and replenish this spiritual energy.

Other signs that you need to restore your spiritual energy include:

  • Feeling out of place or like you don’t belong
  • Lacking enthusiasm for your life even though you are achieving your goals
  • Feeling like you lack purpose
  • Wanting to feel, see and understand life on a deeper and more profound level
  • Feeling constantly stressed or anxious

A powerful way to restore this spiritual energy is to send yourself healing. Anyone can do this, and here is how it works…

Step #1

Find a quiet place where you can’t be disturbed. Either lie down or sit upright in a chair. Close your eyes and take 5 deep breaths here. Be sure you are breathing deep into your belly and not just into your chest.

Step #2

Hold your hands together in prayer position and gently press your finger tips and palms together. Bring your hands up so they touch the center of your forehead or third eye and then bring them down so they touch your heart center. Your forehead and chest area contain two powerful chakras (third eye and heart chakra) and this movement will help to activate them.

Step #3

Now, gently begin rubbing your hands together until you have generated some heat. Place your right hand over your heart center and your left hand over your belly button. Again, these are powerful chakras that will be recharged through your hands.

Step #4

Keeping your eyes closed, visualize healing white light being sent out of your hands into your body. See the nourishing light flowing into your body and healing, restoring and recharging all of your energy centers. Visualize the light going down to the tips of your toes and up to the very top of your head. You can even visualize the white light radiating from your body and forming a protective glow all around you.

Step #5

When you feel that you have received enough white light energy, open your eyes and gently shake your hands. Stand and gently shake out your body or do some light stretches just to get your blood moving.

Step #6

Drink a big glass of water and be sure to stay hydrated for the rest of the day.

This is a very quick and easy way to send healing energy to your body and will help to instantly recharge your spiritual energy.