Gay and Predatory ~ I Think Not
NYT’s today (2.17.19) reviews Sodoma, a troubling sensationalizing of sexuality gone awry, all too tragically at times in an abusive manner. I’m a sure critic of organized religion and its inherent potential to abuse power; but, this book appears as vilifying gay priests, the wonder and pluralism of sexuality. Not all gay priests are pedophiles any more than all straight men are misogynistic. The religious and humanitarian issue at hand is power and abuse. Let’s not confuse pluralistic human nature with the thwarted and damaged men and women who propagate rapacious acts under a religious guise: “All else aside, the book speaks to the enormous and seemingly growing tension between a church that frequently vilifies and marginalizes gay men and a priesthood dense with them. “This fact hangs in the air as a giant, unsustainable paradox,” wrote Andrew Sullivan, who is Catholic and gay, in an excellent cover story for New York magazine last month. It explains why so many gay men entered the priesthood, especially decades ago: They didn’t feel safe or comfortable in a society that ostracized them. Their sense of being outsiders gave them a more spiritual bent and greater desire to help others in need.”
Dark Religion ~ Abuse and the Mind
In The Unholy, I searingly explore the dark side of religion. The dramatic tale delves into religion gone bad, horrifying mind manipulation and sexual abuse taking the reader by storm. Various reviewers criticized it as too severe. I disagree. As in Goddess of the Wild Thing I pop out reality, take it from the subtle to vivid dimensions. This speaks to the unconscious mind, confirms realities repressed by the conscious mind. We deny or forget what traumatizes us. Visionary thrillers help us to face the reality behind the illusion, usher us into what’s been locked up tight and put away in the basement of the unconscious.
Reality ~ Healing What’s True and Hurting
For all of us, we’re no more or less than human. Our life story, if read well and lived well, gradually forms us into a truer human. We’re more sensitive, even if that requires ongoing questioning of self and realigning self when we get off our path. Reading develops a human sensibility for a truer take on reality in matters of sexuality, healing, and spirituality. Let’s take time to read, ponder, and wonder every day. I know there are challenges to our time commitments and other voices telling us to do this or that. We can satisfy those other necessary tugs without forsaking the quietude and reading that nurtures our evolution into a truer perspective on sexuality, spirituality and what it means to be human.
Live Deeply . . . Read Daily
If you say you haven’t felt the crazies, you’re bold-faced lying. All humans do. It’s a human thing. The crazies are what they are—severe anxiety that grips you by the throat and squeezes real hard. That’s why stories are so important.
When I write visionary fiction, I get into the crazies because there’s no light unless you get into the dark. As a psychotherapist, I guide patients to understand that their crazies are a gift. In my novel, The Unholy, Archbishop William Anarch reigns supreme as an incarnation of crazy bad evil. He cloaks it with religion.
The crazies are always cloaked. You don’t think they’re in you or the person you’re troubled by. In fact, they signal there is trouble. It needs attention, working on and working through. In Goddess of the Wild Thing, Eve Sanchez has so much in her life together. But, she’s also got crazy denial going. She wants perfect love. On some level, she thinks it’s there. Then she needs to confront whether she should settle—is bad love better than no love? It’s a crazy proposition in her head that drives the story forward.
What drives us forward is desire. If got good things going for us, it’s a desire to get through what’s bad and find good. If there’s bad settling in nice and tidy and unreachable, then folks settle for crazy—for no love, for bad religion, for a horrid and insane life. It’s merely comfortable to and for them.
Well, since you and I are readers that says we’re searching. We’re searching for something more than settling into crazy. We want release. We read what evil does like in my supernatural thriller, The Unholy. We take in the ravages of bad love like in Goddess of the Wild Thing. It makes us wonder, ponder. And, finally if we read and let the reading soak into us, the crazies are blown out a little more, and we’ve come closer to life, light, and sanity a little more.
“Live Deeply…Read Daily”
There is a plan
There’s a plan going on in our life. We can’t see it day to day, but it’s there. We’re busy living out our stories. Meaning happens once time passes and we look back, we see it all had a purpose.
We get into trouble due to anxiety that pops us out of soul. When I treat patients in depth psychotherapy or write visionary fiction, I’m caught by the power of anxiety. With patients, it lures them out of self. It takes them down dark alleys of despair. Characters in visionary stories lapse into waves of overwhelming stress, a toxic situation that clouds their mind and at least temporarily cripples positive behavior.
Reading visionary fiction taps us into a realm deeper than our anxieties. We step into another imaginative space and time that offers us a way out of a mental rut. The imagination, as psychologists have explored, opens us up to psychic energies that pop the top of our rule-bound heads off—they get what’s old and worn out and present an invigorating challenge and life-changing revolution.
The soul knows
The imagination is the home of the soul. It knows how to take us back inside so we find ourselves again. Dead-end troubles in life, as visionary fiction highlights, often tear us out of what’s true and real. They shake up the good and make us believe there’s only bad. The soul, the source of age-old inner wisdom, knows better. It knows the way back inside. It gets what’s terrible and awful and says voila I have something new for you. It has a plan to get us into the new, the better, the revolutionary.
Some say it’s a leap to believe in soul. Actually, there’s no leap. There is no stretch of mind or faith. Soul simply is, whether we believe in it or not. Mind-numbing pain jettisons us into a wall that forces a decision to either believe in self or not. That’s soul or soullessness. It’s a plain as a New Mexico sunshine-day reality and depth psychological psychic truth.
If you’re up against an emotional/spiritual wall, stop and take a deep breath. Maybe it’s time to get real quiet, do a little online or favorite bookstore search, and read. Go to an imaginative place that speaks to you with a read that offers a tug. There’s a gentle or strong pull to reach out to that bookshelf or click the online button and download. As you start with the first word, sentence and paragraph you’ll feel like you’re settling into a well-worn chair in a warm and comfy home. A soul place. Read and take to heart the visionary story. It will speak to you and show you the way. There’s a plan going on in our life, and the soul knows what it is.
“Live Deeply . . . Read Daily”
Thoughts are real. They exert a force on everyday reality. What we see and dwell on mentally can become manifest. Best to sensitively tend the mind to be in accord with the wisdom of nature and the way of all things.
The unconscious mind
After a week of intensive psychotherapy, I’m reflective. Pondering what I’ve experienced with patients brings to light hidden jewels. The suffering of real people living real lives highlights the workings of the unconscious mind. Where there are conflict and pain, thoughts have been transformed into habitual attitudes. They are largely unconscious. Deep psychotherapy explores vital feeling states, memories and dreams. The lived stories of real people inevitably generates emotional and spiritual drama and, hopefully, transformation.
The unconscious mind slowly reveals to ardent seekers that long-held thoughts and feelings in adulthood cause life situations. In visionary stories, the protagonist must face off with the ghosts they’ve been running from. There’s no outrunning the ghosts of the past. Once they’re faced, revelations begin. We learn their message. They always have a message. And, we see, that our thoughts and feelings have long birthed reality.
Reading and the power of mind
On the weekend, I sink into reading. During the week I take in research in depth psychology, readings that nurture professional growth as a seasoned psychotherapist. Then, once I’ve finished seeing weekly patients, I turn to stories. I read, I write, I explore the unconscious mind with all of its numinous symbols and images. The new novel I’m writing takes unexpected twists and turns as light energies meet dark, natural magic and evil come to a reckoning. Stories illuminate the mind, help us to understand the power of the mind.
We birth our realities as adults. As children, things happened to us. We were vulnerable. Hopefully, as adults we grow into self-empowerment, reading deeply and regularly assisting the development of sensitivity to the conscious and unconscious worlds. We learn that thoughts are real. They exert a force on everyday reality. What we see and dwell on mentally can become manifest. Best to sensitively tend the mind to be in accord with the wisdom of nature and the way of all things.
“Live Deeply . . . Read Daily”
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Inspiration comes when we need it most. Just when we’re on the verge of giving up, it meanders into our mind. Other times, it rushes forward like the north wind. Trusting inspired thoughts and intuitive flashes opens the door for them to come more frequently.
The written word is a mighty source of inspiration. Words, scenes, and characters linger with us. Watch, wait, and sense. There’ll be a tug for the next book you need to read, the one that will provide just the inspiration your thirsty soul needs. But, you need to be open and watch, wait, sense and follow through.
I remember when I read Dancing with Air by Uvi Poznansky. The story pulled me toward and into it. I wasn’t sure why, at first. Then, as I settled into the narrative, I got it. It’s about love, how it lasts, and how critical appreciation is. Before we know it, things can happen. Everything becomes confusing. And, then we realize what’s going on, what we’ve had all along, and we’re appreciative. I needed that message, that inspiration.
Now, I’ve felt the pull toward The Merkaba Mystery by Iva Kenaz. Actually, it been calling my name for a while. I love her writing, the visionary inspiration in each of her works. Esoteric lore and a mysterious place of transition set the stage for this metaphysical novel. I’m not sure what’s in it that lures me, but it’s there. And, I feel the draw. It has a message for me, and I’m open and ready to hear it.
Next, Maria DeBlassie’s, Everyday Enchantments: Musings on Ordinary Magic and Daily Conjurings, always touches my soul. I pick up this volume regularly, open it to any page and find inspiration for the day. It sensitizes me to things, little and big, in daily life I so easily overlook. They are the details, the wonders of nature and relationships we take for granted. When I finish a section, my inner sight is cleared and I see and feel more deeply.
So, let something good come your way today. It’s there. It’s trying to. Let’s open our mind to the possibility of a new book for fresh insight and guidance. You know how much we need it. Stories and inspired writing gives us new insights and fresh energy for the living of a life that requires much and also gives a great deal. But, you need to be open and watch, wait, sense and follow through.
“Live Deeply . . . Read Daily”
Ahhh…to fall deeply in love with soul—not many have considered it. So few have discovered it. It remains a central need for us. We so easily become soulless, lose soul. There’s tiredness that won’t go away. There’s a vague sense of unhappiness lurking like a shadow. There’s that quality to life that it’s not wholly satisfying. These are symptoms of soul loss.
I’m preparing for vacation with Kate. We’re off to a secret place of new sites, smells, tastes, time together. We dwell on the past year, what’s new that we’re seeing in the places we visit. It’s a time of reflection, absorbing, and experiencing. Most of all, it’s a time of being together.
Doing depth psychotherapy and writing every day is consuming. Your work-a-day life is consuming. Life takes a lot. And, life can give a lot. But, soul is required. If we’re moving too fast, having lost enjoyment because of the speed at which we live, then there’s soul loss. We’ve fallen out of love with soul.
When I write, and when I do psychotherapy, I love what I do. When I prepare for vacation, I love the anticipation and the getting there. And, once I’m in the doing of what I’m doing, there can be utter joy. That is soul. That is falling in love with soul and a soulful life.
The visionary fiction I write dramatizes soul. There are people who’ve lost it or come close to losing it. They feel crazy or on the verge of crazy. When we get to the edge of sanity, we teeter and totter. Oh, it’s a very scary time. Sometimes the teetering goes on and on. We feel ill inside, lost and empty. Physical sickness strikes. Mental anguish bears down and won’t let up. The characters in my stories struggle with what it means to be a woman or a man living with pain from the past and abusive people in the present. What do you do? You can’t run from the past forever. You can’t pretend the toxic people in your life now aren’t as bad as they seem. They are. And the truth of what they are and how you play into what they do has to be faced. This is a visionary story—intense, loaded with choices that make the difference between soul and soullessness.
I do therapy and write and live from what I know and have gone through. If I didn’t my patients and readers would feel it. Instead, I’ve been told that what I’ve offered makes sense and helps hurting souls. I’m glad for that. The past week doing therapy has been tough, and I’ve given it my all. The past year nurturing two books in visionary fiction with another on the way has been hard work. I’ve given everything workwise my all. Even more importantly, I’ve given my personal life my all. At least, I believe and hope that I have. There’s been a lot of going through rough times and coming out the other end mentally and spiritually more clear and with sharpened consciousness. Doing therapy and doing writing, living as authentically as I can in my marriage and with my family, has been my priority.
Take some time this summer to make falling in love with soul your priority. You and I can do it by slowing our roll and taking in the joy of being with those we love. We can do it by slowing our roll and reading what nourishes us. Read with deliberation, care, letting the words and meaning of the story settle in like a good meal. On vacation, I like to slow our roll, not move fast and furious. I’m taking a beautiful visionary book, Pedro Paramo by Juan Rulfo. It’s a classic in the genre of magical realism. Acclaimed as a masterpiece of the surreal, it’s a story of one man’s quest for heritage and soul. Tormented spirits share secrets from the past.
I’m going to take my time with this read. I’m going to take my time with my wife, Kate, the sites we see, the moments lingering together. Falling in love with soul, for me, always means falling in love all over again with so much. What is right before me and with me every day comes once again to light. I realize how scary it is to lose sight of life and soul by living so fast and in such a demanding way. So, let’s take time together, live a little slower, read a little slower, and fall in love with soul.
Wow…I just gotta bust this out – Goddess of the Wild Thing just won the 2017 New York City Big Book Award for Visionary Fiction! Still trying to catch my breath, but had to share the news!
Thank you to all who have read this paranormal romance, a visionary quest for love. An author never really knows what’s going to happen once their book is published. There are over four million books published a year. To gain recognition in a particular category blows my mind. It’s due to a wonderful reading audience and clear-minded reviewers, those who give a story a reading and let its mojo seep in.
In the writing of Goddess of the Wild Thing, my mind would become entranced by the characters, their pain and hopes. It is my earnest desire to touch those who read by reminding them that they are not alone. We are not alone. To read and be lulled into the spell of a visionary story often means to enter a light trance state. It’s what makes a visionary story, visionary. It alters consciousness. Of course, all good stories take us into other worlds and change consciousness. But, with visionary fiction, the human psyche is brought front and center, archetypes and spirits made evident and thrilling.
Goddess of the Wild Thing is a thriller for one and all. Each and every one of us wants to learn about love. Is bad love better than no love? Is there such a thing as bad love? Will good love ever come our way? Goddess of the Wild Thing has questions, answers, and characters who speak in timely ways with magical drama to touch the soul and heal the mind.
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Paul DeBlassie III, Ph.D.
A psychologist by trade, Paul DeBlassie III has a deep understanding of the emotional and spiritual crisis of everyday people. He introduces these real-world themes into the fantastical, supernatural realms he creates in his books. Read more →